First Name

Rosalind

Last Name

Sedacca

Email

rosalindwrites@gmail.com

How do I want to change the life of my reader or audience?

Have a successful, cooperative divorce on behalf of your children

What problem does my theme/product/process solve?

Fear, guilt, apprehension about negatively impacting your child due to the divorce.

What desire does my product or service fulfill?

Feeling confident you’re protecting your child from the negative emotional/psychological impact of divorce

What action do I want my audience to take?

Learn mistakes to avoid and success strategies to take through coaching that lead to a happy, positive child-centered divorce

Who is my hero? (Yourself or another character)

I am the hero in my own story

Where is my hero just before beginning his/her journey? [Setup]

Getting divorced and sad, worried, anxious, depressed, guilty about the impact on my son.

Why will my audience care about my hero? [Empathy]

I’m a relatable mom, like you, who was worried about how the divorce will affect my son. Audience will empathize with my anxiety, guilt and other common emotions.

What crisis or wish started my hero on this journey? [Opportunity]

After 10 years in an unhappy marriage I finally decided to get out because my son was showing signs of stress in his life. My mother was in an unhappy marriage and stayed for the sake of the kids. I knew this wasn’t best for my son because I knew the negative impact on my life. I had to take action and couldn’t put it off any longer.

How did your hero react to that opportunity? [New Situation]

I decided it was time to divorce and not wait any longer. My son was getting stress headaches. His father was siding with him regarding discipline issues.After years of therapy, personal growth programs and workshops I needed to take action!

What visible goal is my hero desperate to achieve? [Pursuit]

My goal was to divorce without scarring my son. To continue co-parenting effectively, smoothly and successfully so my son is happier than he was before.

How does my hero plan to achieve this goal? [Plan]

First find a way to effectively break the divorce news to my son and learn how to co-parent in the best, most successful way to create a Child-Centered Divorce.

Who is the hero’s ally [Reflection]

My sister, a therapist, was my ally who I could confide in, bounce ideas with, to support me through the insecurities. I also depended on contributing therapists to my book for support and expertise.

What are the external obstacles does the hero face and how does the hero overcome them? [Outer conflict]

Obstacles I faced: anger from my ex, anger from my son, earning how to fight fairly, cooperate and compromise, overcoming challenges, getting past fears, anxiety and insecurities.

Who stands in my hero’s way? [Nemesis]

Inner battles. Overcoming jealousy and comparisons with Dad. Not competing with Dad for my son’s love. Working on my self-esteem and confidence. Not making Dad wrong or bad.

How was my hero hurt in the past? [Wound]

I deeply understood childhood wounds from parents who made all the mistakes of divorced parents without the divorce. I wanted to protect my son from these mistakes my mother made:

* fighting around the kids

* badmouthing their other parent

* using your child as a confidant

* using your child as a spy

* making me feel guilty for loving my father who my mother hated

* never feeling loved by my parents

* blaming myself for parental fights

So I was doubly sensitive about not hurting my son in the same ways.

What fears must my hero now overcome? [Inner conflict]

My personal inner conflicts:

Fear of hurting, scarring my son emotionally, fear of my son hating me for initiating the divorce, fear of my son becoming closer to his father than to me, fear of negatively impacting my son’s ability to have a happy, successful love relationship ahead.

What is my hero’s moment of greatest courage? [Transformation]

The big decision: Finally deciding to get the divorce, taking action to move ahead, deciding to leave my ex in the house and rent an apartment for myself and my son, start over on my own, feel confident in my decision that this was best for us all.

What is the exact moment my hero achieves the visible goal? [Climax]

My greatest achievement was when my son was in his early 20s, came to me and said: Thank you Mom for you and Dad doing the divorce so well. My friends whose parents divorced are angry and hate their parents but I think you guys were great. I let out a huge sigh of relief and know I had something of great value to share with other parents. Only then did I create the Child-Centered Divorce Network, become a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach and wrote How Do I Tell the Kids About My Divorce? That moment was the turning point in my life!

How does my hero’s life change by completing this journey? [Aftermath]

Over the past 10 years I’ve maintained a very close happy relationship with my son who is now married and a father. He also wrote the Foreword to my book. I was with my ex at all our son’s special events: graduations, celebrations, wedding. I now Coach clients around the world via phone or Skype to help them make the best decisions for co-parenting success and have created programs and courses available on the internet that guides parents through a smooth, cooperative and successful co-parenting experience.